This blog is an answer to a blog I read today…. Not a rebuttal, cause im a lover, not a fighter. But I just felt the need to state my claim and hope that the person’s blog I read will not take it as a refute but more like a “hmm interesting” type deal… I love you, and I really hope you don’t take this the wrong way... And if you do……..You think you know someone soooo well, then you realize you don’t. That goes both ways. In an effort to be a better person, I’ve learned it’s all about give and take....when you take more then you give, you’re satisfied at first, then you end up very disappointed. When you give more then you take, you end up feeling cheated. As a result of being disappointed, you will see that it becomes very easy to have the “I don’t give a fuck” attitude. When you feel cheated, you tend to have the “I don’t give a fuck, and you will pay” attitude. I have experienced both, and neither of them have a pleasant aftertaste. And while it is no ones goal to be unhappy, we all seem to run across the “usual suspects” that make it apparent why we don’t “fuck” with people like that… by that I mean the “ones” that spit a good game, and then after while the game runs out and they have to rely on who they really are… it’s the ones who are Real from the beginning that last the test of time…so what happens when you have someone right in front of your face that seem perfect (we know their not) and they say the right things and well, things are just PEACHY?....you roll with it right? …. WRONG… check this…
Patient: capable of waiting, able to endure waiting, delay, or provocation without becoming annoyed or upset.
Capable of preserve calmly, especially when faced with difficulties.
Patient: somebody given medical treatment, someone who receives medical attention.
This is what I think: being patient can turn you into a patient….
Have you EVER been sooooooooo patient that you drive yourself crazy?? …. I have.
Patients can be looked at from many different points.. When you’re trying to figure a person out, in the beginning it cool, its fun, the anticipation of learning new info is exciting… then, after while you start to wonder if the other person is just being difficult… and if they’re just leading you on… or if they even like you like that…Then you start to question yourself, which is never good cause then you’re trying to find everything wrong with yourself to have a good enough reason for why the other person is so hard to figure out!... So to avoid all those feelings, some people just split, and go with what they know, unable to really explore what’s out there cause you’re scared that you might get hurt.. Or worst you might actually like someone enough to let them stick around.. Scary huh?
Uncertainty is always scary. No one wants to keep going further into something that seems ever complex. Men AND Women are confusing… My patients may not be the same as yours. I may be able to hold out on eating chocolate for 3 weeks, while you may only last 2 days… so does that mean you have no patients?.. How long is long enough? At what point in a relationship do you throw all of your cards on the table and reveal what you have? At what cost to do risk it all on that 1 person... and is it really a risk? And if you just so happen to find that one, does patients still apply? Or is it non existent cause you have who you want?... so my question is, When does patients apply?
I’m asking because I’ve been told by several people that im impatient. When I wanted to buy a new car, I went hard at it everyday and wouldn’t stop calling the dealership… my friend said “ you’re too impatient, why don’t you just sit back and relax”… well, I got what I wanted, when I wanted it and at the price I wanted.. Now that persons car is broke down… I remember one time when I wanted to get a tattoo my friends said “ Chavi, are you sure you want to do this, just wait , and see how you feel about it tomorrow”… nope, I went THAT NIGHT and got a tattoo and I couldn’t have done it at a better time .. Why? Cause that next week, the tattoo parlor went up on their prices… so, I gave you the Webster version of what “patients” means.. now let me give you mine
Patients: slacking off, not going for what you want. Relaxed and comfortable with failure. Giving in.
I’m not perfect… obviously. But I don’t claim to be… I have MANY flaws, and yeah, I thought the dude I was with was ok with that… well, he wasn’t. is any one %100 ok with accepting others flaws?... and if you cant live with a few flaws should you check yourself or do you skip over what may be a good catch cause you’ve made your standards too far out of reach? Not saying you should lower your standards.. but make them realistic.. which , most people have.
So, the next time someone says “Chavi, you’re impatient” … I’m gonna say “thanks, that’s awful nice of you to say”… damn right.
